So now you know how to create real and lasting results in your life from last week’s post. If you didn’t get a chance to check it out yet, then the cliffs notes version is:
The way to create lasting change in your life is to take small steps, consistently, over a period of time. 30 days of consistent (that means EVERY day without even one miss!) effort works for me and everyone I have come in contact with in this life so far to create a habit. I’d say it’s pretty effective.
Once the habit is ingrained, the doing doesn’t require extra brain power on your part. You’ve planted it into your subconscious programming and you just do the ‘thing’ on automatic.
What usually happens though, and the #1 reason why people don’t hit their goals, is that they quit before they reach their goals because they’re not ‘seeing’ results. This is misguided because your focus needs to first be on creating the habit, and then you can focus on results. Make sure the supportive habits get into place.
But people don’t FEEL like doing 30 days. They need immediate gratification and they’re looking for it in their ‘results’. They want to be rewarded for their efforts.
And I say, GREAT! Let’s turn the tables and use immediate gratification as the tool that HELPS you to achieve your goal instead of the one that derails you.
What do I mean? I’m talking about setting up some rewards for yourself.
There are many walls and obstacles that get put up in front of you as you replace old habits that no longer serve you with new shiny habits that do.
One of the key ways to get past these blocks is to create rewards for yourself. There are 3 rules when it comes to reward creation:
1- Make sure it’s something that you really value. If you say your reward is to get a pedicure, and you get one every week anyway, chances are that won’t work on a subconscious level. You want to be able to keep your subconscious interested, so up your ante.
2- When you reach your goal, you must follow through. If you don’t you will break trust with yourself. That means you won’t believe you can do certain things as you move forward in life. You lose confidence. I can’t convey how important it is to follow through on your promises to yourself.
3- Create rewards for the entire journey as opposed to just one at the end. Make sure to reward yourself for taking action all along the way, instead of rewarding yourself for certain results. For example, instead of saying “I will gift myself with a mani/pedi after I lose 5 pounds”, say “when I complete 7 days of exercising every day for a minimum of 10 minutes a day, I will gift myself for a mani/pedi”. Nobody knows how long it will take you to lose 5 pounds. Every person is different. So while we know it WILL happen, we don’t know the time frame. Reward yourself for your actions all along the way.
So what’s your daily non-negotiable activity for the next 30 days? And what are your rewards for your actions along the way? Share in the comments below, I can’t wait to see what you’ve got going on!
It’s time for big change, so let’s make it happen :)All my Best,